On an article from Cafemom.com, a woman (in her opinon) talks about how rude it is to ask a mother if she is done with kids. Keep in mind that the woman has four boys and one girl, which is five kids. (yes, that did sound a bit rude but stay with me.) At first I was agreeing with the woman, but then I got to thinking. Would I really be upset? To be honest, I don’t really know.
What Number is Large? – To me, I want to have as much kids as I can possibly afford. By affording, I don’t mean just Money. We all know that raising kids can make a dent in our financials, but I’m also talking about time and energy. I only have my son at the moment, but I honestly think I can only handle two kids if life allowed it. I am constantly doing activities with my son to try and get him to communicate more, but if I were to introduce another child into our family; my time with my son is going to be shared with his sibling. I applaud mothers who can handle multiple kids, and I may be a multi tasker, but I cannot see myself with more than 3 kids.
In the article, the mother obviously is upset. It could be because she thinks people have this stereotype in their mind of “Wow! That’s a lot of kids! You need to stop giving birth” or maybe “Oh, you’re done because you have both genders.” Didn’t the Duggars announce they were having a 20th child? How many kids is too many kids? I tell you what, I know twenty kids is too much for me. Don’t get me wrong, I would love to have twenty kids. Could I ever afford it? No. I know I could never have the mental capacity to take care of twenty kids. More power to Michelle Duggar. It’s a personal choice.
Is it rude to ask? – Of course this section is going to be based on my opinion. I believe it’s all based on context. I am guilty of asking other mothers if they were done having kids. Did I mean it as a rude remark? I didn’t think it was. I have met some people who have responded “Oh yeah, I’m done with kids.” Then next thing I know, they are pregnant with another kid! When I ask someone if they are done having kids, I mean it in a nice way. More like “Do you want to have another?” or “Do you think you will have another in the future?” If I had five kids, and some family member came up and said “oh my gosh! Are you done with kids yet?” Then I would be upset. Just the simple “yet” added onto that question makes it sound rude of people to ask.